I am on day 15 of a 30 day blogging. The mid-way point. And today I didn’t know what to write about. It’s a Sunday – a day I don’t normally work which means whilst I have lots of business topics I could talk about – I want to leave those for another day.
And of course, the news, social media, everyday conversation is filled with the Coronavirus. So, I’ve been asking myself whether to write about that – or steer clear entirely and not add to the noise.
Rather than mentally debate the issue I decided to ask the oracle. A few months ago I bought a set of Kyle Gray’s Keepers of the Light Oracle cards and whenever I feel moved to I pick a card asking very open questions like “what do I need to know today?”
This morning I asked “Show me what to blog about today?”
This was the card I pulled:
Think about what you desire. Set your sights high. Expect the best possible outcome.
Diana helps us tune into our intuitive side so that we can listen to the wisdom that will guide us towards our goal.
Her message this morning was:
Move forwards with unwavering faith, knowing that the universe is supporting you.
If I look back over my life I can see the one thing that has made a difference more than anything is unwavering faith. I totally trust I will be supported by life and that everything is always moving in accordance with my greatest good.
I have no fear over what might happen with the Coronavirus. Whilst our investments and our Airbnb business are taking a big hit (and will probably get worse before they get better) – I trust that we will have enough income to thrive despite the turbulence. To me it’s a sign that I need to step up in my own business – and already I’m excited about an online programme I’ll be launching soon.
But I realised that this lack of fear didn’t just happen. Yes, I was born with it – we all were. But like everyone it got eroded in childhood and then chipped away at throughout life and I started living in fear.
However, in the past 6 years the fear has dropped away and I thought it would be helpful to share what I started to do differently that’s made this happen:
1. Seeing my life as an unfolding story
All great stories have a hero or heroine who faces challenges – some of them seemingly unsurmountable. They have setbacks and experience moments when it looks like “all is lost”. Whenever I am in a dark place or I move forward and keep getting knocked back, I remind myself I am in the middle of an unfolding story. At some point in the future I will look back and see what this particular challenge taught me and how it served me. This stops all the inner angst of “why me?” or “life’s not fair”.
I stopped wishing my life was different and instead accepted that everything is unfolding perfectly. However, this doesn’t mean becoming a doormat nor putting up with things that are unacceptable. If I am unhappy in any given situation or things aren’t going as well as I hope, I look to see what I can do to change it. Maybe I need to speak up about a situation that isn’t serving me. Maybe I need to stop doing something, start doing something else. Instead of wishing people would treat me differently and extricating myself from situations, I imagine everyone as paid actors in my unfolding story – if they are winding me up it’s because it supports my unfolding story. That if I want things to be different, I need to look at my own behaviour and thoughts and explore what I can do to transform the situation. As I started taking responsibility for my experience of other people’s behaviour and began interacting with them differently – their behaviour changed. It was extraordinary. I also stopped worrying about things I couldn’t do anything about, regularly reminding myself of the Serenity Prayer by Reinhold Niebuhr:
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference
3. Feeling my emotions without labelling them as “good” or “bad”
Over the years we’ve learnt to assign labels to emotions – we split them into “positive” and “negative” emotions. In doing so we rob ourselves of the richness of life. As humans we’re here to feel all the emotions. As we allow them to wash over us without trying to squish them down, they pass through us. When we deny them or make them wrong, they can become trapped and spill out in other ways – they might make us physically unwell, or we might explode in situations that really don’t warrant it. Allowing the safe release of all our emotions frees us.
4. No judgement
I stopped judging myself and others. I stopped seeing things as “right” or “wrong”. Instead I saw everything as a different way of experiencing life.
I trust that there’s a Divine Plan, that the universe is filled with beauty and order. That there’s a much bigger picture unfolding that we cannot see because we’re in it.
Whilst there is so much more I could share on each of these, I hope this brief overview is supportive in this time of uncertainty. If you’d like me to go into anything in greater detail do let me know in the comments below.