I’ve had quite an adventure with planning and goal setting.  Back in January 2017 I’d stopped setting goals completely and of course shared my experience in a blog post.

However in the past few months I’ve started to appreciate the value of goals and came up with a 90 day business plan at the beginning of October.  Part of that plan was a big bold money goal.  My first action:  To re-write the page inviting people to have a discovery session with me.  Two weeks in and it’s still on my “to do” list.  I’ve made a start but it’s not finished.

Of course I always get curious when I don’t do the things I say I want to do.

So I looked at my big bold money goal and asked myself how excited I was by it.

I should be – I could do a lot with that money.

But as I looked at it I realised it doesn’t excite me one iota.  It’s simply a number on a sheet of paper – one that I have no emotional attachment to whatsoever.

And that’s curious too – because there are plenty of things I could use that money for:

I could use it to re-decorate our house; to hire a gardener; to pay off debt; buy some new clothes; splash out for Christmas; go away for a weekend break; book a holiday; buy beautiful items for the home ….

I could do all of these things – which do motivate me – so why do I look at that number and not get excited?

Maybe I don’t believe I’ll achieve it so there’s no point in getting my hopes up?

Maybe I don’t want to have a gazillion discovery calls?

Maybe I don’t really want to take on new clients this side of Christmas?

Except none of those “maybes” resonate as being true:

I’ve hit more than that money goal in just 10 days before –so it’s definitely achievable.

I’m excited about the prospect of discovery calls and exploring where people are out of alignment in their business

I definitely want to work with new clients – especially after getting an amazing testimonial this week.

So why am I not excited?

Of course, I could spend days trying to figure it out, or I could try to beat myself into submission and motivate myself to take action.

Or I could accept my lack of excitement and instead pick a goal that does motivate me.

Like making my goal:

  • Buying some beautiful furnishings for my home
  • Hiring a gardener for 3 or 4 days to get on top of the weeds
  • Going away for the weekend
  • Having a holiday somewhere warm

All of these are tangible, easily do-able and I can take an action on each of those today.

One of the issues with my big 90 day money goal is that it’s so far in the future I cannot relate to it.

I’m a here and now kind of gal – I’m motivated by instant action.

So everything I do to take my big bold goal and make it tangible here and now – and the more I reward myself with a quick win – the closer I’ll get to that overall goal.  Hey mabe I’ll even surpass it!  If you’ve ever done any mountain climbing or hill walking you’ll know that the ultimate aim is to get to the top.  But you get there by putting one foot in front of the other, over and over.

And in my process of exploring I think I may have uncovered why big bold money goals have not worked for me yet.  It’s something I first recognised a few years ago (and thought I’d evolved past) but I can see it’s still playing out.  And that is I’m living in survival.  Having not enough, or just enough.  Accomplishing a big bold money goal would blow that out of the water.  And that threatens who I know myself to be – it hits at the heart of my identity.

It’s no wonder I’ve not been taking any action – whenever our identity is threatened our ego steps in to protect us.  For me that means I procrastinate!

And we all know that the best thing we can do when we procrastinate is – take action.

That means finishing this blog and getting some quotes from a gardener, buy a few items I’ve been holding back on, and look into a weekend away – all of which will get me fired up to update my discovery session offer!

Will it be done by the time you read this I wonder?

Until next time,

Melina